Forget FOMO, let’s talk about JOMO: the joy of missing out

Forget FOMO, let’s talk about JOMO: the joy of missing out

I love working online. I love the freedom and flexibility it gives me, and I love that I’m able to earn money doing something I genuinely enjoy and often doesn’t feel like a job.

But the problem with living your whole life online is that it can be impossible to switch off. I’ve always been quite an independent and introverted person, so I struggle with the constant notifications on my phone. Recently I came across an interesting concept” JOMO, or the joy of missing out. Let me explain.

Twenty-Something City wears Shein sunflower summer dress

Dress: Shein; Bag: eBay

These days we all suffer from FOMO, or the fear of missing out. We see our friends have gone out together without us, or that someone we follow is supposedly living their best life in Ibiza while we’re cramped on a stuffy commuter train on a rainy day.

But FOMO is bad news. I’ve written before about how I don’t think social media causes unhappiness, but rather our relationship with it. This is where JOMO comes in: instead of feeling down about missing out, embrace it.

I’m a big believer that people should switch off on a regular basis. Did you know that the average twenty-something checks his or her phone 150 times a day?! It’s surprisingly easily done, whether you’re catching up on notifications or looking to make sure you haven’t missed one.

Twenty-Something City wears Shein sunflower summer dress in Edinburgh Dean Village

But with our heads buried in our phones, how often do we go about our lives without actually taking anything in? I’ve always been baffled by people who go to gigs or other events and feel a compulsion to video it on Snapshat, or live tweet everything that is going on. How can you enjoy what is in front of you if you’re so busy thinking about sharing it with everyone else?

Of course, this is the very nature of being a blogger. But I’m very particular about what I share. I don’t post every single thing I do, partly because I don’t think anyone will be interested (#oldladylife) and partly because I don’t see why other people need to know my every move. My reservedness might mean I’m never going to make it as a ‘big time’ blogger, but that’s OK. Everything comes at a price and my privacy (or sanity) is not a trade-in I’m willing to take.

Twenty-Something City wears Shein sunflower summer dress in Edinburgh Dean Village

It’s amazing what you can see by actually looking around you. I took these photos with fellow blogger Ruth from Urbanity in the beautiful Dean Village area of Edinburgh. It was a gloriously sunny day, wandering around one of the most beautiful parts of my favourite city with a good friend. That’s the sort of thing I’ll remember when I’m old and grey, not how many people liked my Instagram photos.

Life is for living. Despite what your peers may tell you, it’s impossible to ‘live your best life’ if you’re constantly fretting about your online presence. Am I advocating moving to the woods and becoming a hermit? Hell no! I love a good scroll through Instagram. But I think we could all benefit from embracing the joy of missing out, rather than fearing it.

Blogger Twenty-Something City in Edinburgh's Dean Village

Moving back to Edinburgh has given me an appreciation of the city like never before, and I’m determined to explore it fully this time round.

As summer approaches, I hope you all make some memories for life,

I was gifted the dress in this post. However, all views are my own.


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